Today, Eric and I are celebrating 5,479 days of marriage.
This is an interesting moment in time. We can vividly remember our dating days, but we’ve also begun to picture what our lives will be like when our kids are grown. We hear songs we listened to as teens on the “oldies” station, but not all of our concert outings are for nostalgia acts. We definitely know more than we used to about home improvement projects, but we also know when it’s time to hire a pro to get something done.
For me, the most amazing thing about marriage has been waking up each day knowing that I have someone on my team, someone who encourages me to do better at work and in life. When we do something, we bring out the best in each other. We’ve had such fun teaching together, reading books together, traveling to new places together, even just copy editing each other’s writing. Heck, we have built so much IKEA furniture over the years with so few tears that I know it was meant to be!
I knew Eric was patient and kind when I married him; I didn’t know how important his generosity of spirit would be as the years went on. Because he’s able and willing to keep things going at home on his own from time to time, I have been able to travel for work, volunteer my time in the community and sustain friendships. Maybe women can’t have it all, but we can have so much more when our husbands are true partners in life.
Ogden Nash had it right when he wrote: “To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup, Whenever you’re wrong, admit it; Whenever you’re right, shut up.”